Why do we do the things we do?

Why do I do some of the things that I do?

Have you ever asked yourself that question? Have you ever wondered why some of your friends and loved ones do the things that they do? Much of human personality lives below the level of our consciousness. Some of the messages which we have come to believe about ourselves are lie-based--they aren't really true of us, they just feel true. Some messages I've heard in therapy include: "I suck", "I am a disappointment", "There is something wrong with me", "I am alone", "I will never measure up", and "I must be perfect if I am to earn anyone's love and acceptance".

Were do these messages come from? Frequently, they were 'taught' to us by life, and particularly by the painful events in our past. Often, they live on into our present and future, sort of 'looping" in our subconscious, like a tape that plays over and over. And, they have a profound influence on how we feel about ourselves, as well as influencing our expectations about how others treat us in our relationships.

Therapy can be useful in uncovering these lie-based beliefs that we hold about ourselves. Therapy can help us to renounce those lies, to find healing for those broken places in our hearts. If I believe negative things about myself, these negative beliefs will influence how I feel about myself, and they can create pain and dysfunction in my relationships.

Do you wonder why you do the things you do? Working with a therapist can help you uncover and dispute those negative, lie-based beliefs that you hold about yourself.